For Luka When Bear came to me in a dream, I felt alone in the world and abandoned by Creator Her form seemed like a hulking threat A silent judgement Yet she waited till I approached Night after night year after year She was my strength and my balm To my tears and aches my […]
Throwback Thursday: Scars
Image Description: A black-and-white ink drawing of an eye with dark sclera emerging out of a wound with three stitches on either side. The word “SCARS” is superimposed on top and faded, with Lukayo’s signature in English and basahan/baybayin under the “R” and “S” of the word “SCARS”. Content Warning: allusions to death, sexual assault, […]
Workshop Wednesday: Accomplices & Allies
The Accomplices & Allies poster/handout is a beginner’s visual tool for sighted folks that cover the basic concepts about using one’s privilege in a relationship to support the other person or people that don’t have those privileges. This article will include a full description of the poster, important links on the concept of accomplices, and […]
Troubleshoot Tuesday: Side Punch
Image Description: The picture is divided into two parts. On the left side is a black and white photo of a person in a grey hoodie, with their back towards the viewer, as they stare out at the water. On the right side is a semi-transparent graphic of a stylized grey fist on a dark […]
Musings Monday: Why I Want to Start an Affordable Retreat Centre
Content Warning: death, mental illness, ideation As folks have probably guessed by now, I’m the type of healer that is obsessed with healing because I’ve spent a lot of time (and still do!) working on my own healing journey. When my partner Steve died and I was imploding my other close relationships around me in […]
Fresh Friday: A Litany of Things That Were Never Yours For The Taking
Content Warning: Sexual assault, franchise colonialism, settler colonialism, anti-Black racism, cisgenderism/transphobia, misogyny, femmephobia Image description: A photograph taken by Lukayo Estrella of the Mayon Volcano, with coconut trees and lush jungle in the foreground. The text over the photograph reads: “A Litany of Things That Were Never Yours For the Taking” and “patreon.com/lukayo“. A Litany […]
Throwback Thursday: Self-Portrait
[Image Description: A black-and-white self-portrait of Lukayo wearing a baseball cap and shirt that is falling off one shoulder to reveal the strap of an under-shirt. They have long hair on one side. Half of their face has facial hair, and the other half is shaved. The drawing has the word “SELF-PORTRAIT” at the top, […]
Workshop Wednesday: The Oppression Triangle
[Image made using Canva. The poster is in colours of midnight-blue/indigo, mustard yellow, and lemon yellow. The top of the poster is yellow on blue, with the text “THE OPPRESSION TRIANGLE” and “Based off of Judith H. Katz’s framework in her book “White Awareness: Handbook for Anti-Racism Training” (1978)”. The middle part of the poster […]
Workshop Wednesday Special! Relationship Charts
In celebration of the Kinaban Patreon reaching our first goal of $150, here’s a freebie post on charting your relationships! I’m going to ramble about the following: why chart your relationships? needs, wants, and boundaries the space-time continuum feeling special sharing lives together when to use the charts a link to the relationship charts in […]
WE DID IT! WE REACHED THE FIRST GOAL!
[Image made with Canva. The background is black with white text. On the left are three photos placed vertically. The top photo is of Noah Heart, a brown-skinned man with black hair and glasses wearing a long-sleeved shirt praying to the statue of an angel and lit up by a ball of light. The middle […]